The love adventure with someone autistic
Well, lets ask a ridiculous question “Ever been in love ?”. The least I’ll say is Give it a try !
So, have you ever been in love? That sounds so obvious. Like, of course, one-sided or both, we have almost always been in love in some form or other.
Loving, generally to speak, is a challenging affair as it often feels like exploring the uncharted territories of any person or yourself. It’s like you see them change. You see yourself being changed and adapting to a new life. At least you need somebody to text you good morning and good night.
You see, loving someone is always one of the most life-changing experiences. Well, at least if it’s ‘true love’ from your side.
Let’s now see how exactly you love someone with autism. This may or may not be different from loving anybody, and the things shared here can boost any relationship into knowing and understanding each other at a much deeper level.
Dating someone on the autism spectrum can be a uniquely enriching and rewarding experience, but it also requires understanding, patience, and a willingness to embrace the unexpected. In this article I have tried to figure it out in a three phase method, read further to get the best idea. Before we go on anything, we have to ensure that we have a basic idea of what autism is.
Autism is not anything like a mental disease or something that can be ‘cured.’ Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) is a range of neurodevelopmental conditions that affect how an individual understands the process or interacts with anything or anyone.
So, now that we have a better idea of what we are talking about.
Let’s begin the journey of love. After all, the cupid’s arrow struck hard, right?
Phase 1: Let’s Communicate
Let’s get going with some sharing of words or silences. You see, autistic people are not different. They might perceive things differently, but communication is only sometimes talking. It is the sharing of ideas.
- Expressing Directly and calm places:
Try to express your love directly instead of your romantic code language. Autistic people are generally a bit more sensitive to the environment, so your busy mall might not be an ideal date sight. Calm places and softer surroundings are much better suited to their hyperinteractivity.
2. Understanding silences:
Silence is not always a sign of signing out of the communication. Autistic people generally tend to take a bit of time to process their emotions and surroundings. Understanding this and giving them proper space can go a long way in improving and knowing the knowledge about each other much better.
Phase 2: Building the understanding
- Embracing Uniqueness:
Well, we all are built differently. Our interests may only sometimes match others and may not always correspond with others. But, you know what feels truly best when someone puts in the effort to be there and participate in your interest and celebrate your achievements. This will hit a deeper layer in anyone’s heart.
2. Thought Fullness:
Planning a date sounds fun and exciting, like with all the butterflies of knowing and meeting that person. You might want to plan surprises. However, if you are dating someone autistic, that might not be the best idea. Avoid unexpected changes or surprises that could trigger anxiety. Building routines together can be an insane idea.
Phase 3: Making things happen
Now that we are done with all the basics let’s jump into making your relationship happen. We need to keep four things in mind to enhance your relationship. Even though these are more tailored towards having a relationship with an autistic person, these can provide significant help for any relationship with anyone. Now, let’s dive deep into these:
- Emotional Intelligence:
You know it’s easy to find people who would love till it’s easy, and it’s challenging to find people who continue even after it’s complicated. Relationships are a balance, a set of knowing and understanding each other like no other ever available. Learn to recognize how they feel, their feelings, and thoughts expressing your heart. Celebrate their sometimes quirky behaviors. They are not differences but a bridge you must cross for a deeper understanding.
2. Don’t Forget yourself:
You see, it’s easy always to give in too much of yourself for someone. Communicate your needs and wants; autistic people like clear and straightforward communication, which simplifies life. Know and gather knowledge about autism that will help get you together. Connect with friends and people with experience, which can help you grow and improve your relationship.
3. Keeping your inner child alive:
Dating someone is not a ride on rainbows. It has a fair amount of quirks and its own share of fun. Everyone has their struggles and fights. But it would be best if you remembered that life is complicated by itself, and in all that mess, it’s essential to keep your inner child alive; it helps you handle things and enjoy life at large. So, be playful, have fun together, make memories that you can always look back on, and be like, yes, you lived it all, and it was worth it. Humor and playfulness can light up even the darkest corners of life.
4. Positive Communication:
Who doesn’t like a partner to celebrate their joys and hold them strong for their sorrows? Everyone has unique qualities, and when someone appreciates that, it feels like they made your life a better place. Celebrate each other’s interests, adventures, and moments of connection. This, perhaps, is one of the best things for someone with autism as they are far more likely to enjoy that than anybody else.
Never stop asking questions and getting a better perspective about each other’s minds. You can learn a lot from people, even those you least expect. Relationships work on continuous effort, and that needs to be there from both sides, and that’s what makes it all work out in the end.
Conclusion
No, this is no phase or anything but more of a note from the writer. These things can sometimes be too tiring for anyone to handle, and overthinking can take you to various places. But it’s not about working too hard; it is no ride on rainbows and unicorns. This is more of a journey, sometimes frustrating, but ultimately, things happen right.
It’s a beautiful shared journey. With open hearts and open minds, you can build a love story that transcends labels and celebrates the unique tapestry of your connection.
On a cold evening, they sit across from each other at a fireplace, looking at the eyes that glitter like gold. Everything makes sense.
This is just the beginning of your adventure; have fun!
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